The longer I live the more I realize how desperately we all long to be right. We want our opinions to be heard and to matter. When someone hears us and understands us we feel like we matter in this world.
Right? Am I right?
Honestly, I'm not so concerned about being right in this post. I'm concerned about being understood.
If my first two sentences didn't make sense to you, then it doesn't matter if I'm right. If I failed to connect with you in expressing my opinion, and the words or the idea (or both) didn't resonate with your thoughts, beliefs and feelings, I simply failed to communicate.
It's more important to be understood than to be right.
Seth Godin inspired my thoughts today. He said, "It doesn't matter if you are right, it matters if you are understood."
This concept goes against our human nature, personally and professionally. It jousts with our ego, with a longer lance, on a larger, more powerful horse.
But will it win?
I want to be understood more than I want to be right. Just getting to this point, knowing it's my true desire as a human being and a coach is truly significant.
I want it to win.